Comments on: Mommy Guilt

By: Scarlett - Domestic Goddess Chronicles

Scarlett - Domestic Goddess Chronicles — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 01:17:33 +0000

Mommy Guilt is the worst! I finally decided that there was too much of this "black market guilt" in my world. It didn’t stop me from feeling like the worst mom ever, but it did stop me from staying in that pit. I’d echo what everyone else has said and add that truly – the sum of our love is greater than the pieces of days.

By: Kandace

Kandace — Wed, 21 May 2008 22:20:54 +0000

(((HUGS)))

I’ve got Mommy Guilt NO MATTER WHAT I DO! I feel it’s never good enough.

Anyway, don’t be too hard on yourself. Mmmmmk?

By: jessica

jessica — Wed, 21 May 2008 16:58:24 +0000

It’s my first time to visit your site, but I wanted to comment and let you know that it is perfectly normal to be feeling what you are feeling. I feel this way all the time and I don’t even work, so I can totally relate to the guilt that you are feeling. I think that we have these super high expectations of how things SHOULD be and when they don’t work out, then we feel guilty or like we have somehow failed our children. If you feel like you need to spend more time with her, then take 10 or 15 minutes every hour and play and make up that time on the computer when she’s asleep. Also, remember that at a job away from home would be 9 – 5, so maybe it would work for you to make it a point to only devote that time to the computer and all other to your family. I’m sure you are a great mom, so don’t be so hard on yourself.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Wed, 21 May 2008 06:54:28 +0000

She’s probably a happy camper.
But I don’t think you are…. ???
As someone who has been there, and looking back
I can say that I wish I’d have stayed home and raised my kids. kids are only small once.

You’re very blessed to be home –

However, you need to set your timer. When that buzzer goes off …. leave your computer and go to your more important job. For your sake.
Blessings!

By: Melinda

Melinda — Wed, 21 May 2008 04:42:55 +0000

I know just how you feel. I do the smae thing with my bloggin as well as my other business. One thing that really, really helped me was to set certain time slots during the day when I work and certain times when the computer must be OFF (or I must be away from it) no matter what. That way when I am working I don’t feel quite so guilty and my little one gets some of the one on one times she needs.

By: Lifesong

Lifesong — Wed, 21 May 2008 03:56:29 +0000

Hun…you are doing the BEST that you can and Hailey is loved and happy. Anybody can see that.

Sometimes Mom’s have to work to help support with the finances. And that’s okay.

Even Mom’s who don’t work question whether they are spending enough time with their children.

I can understand why you feel the way you feel — but I hope you don’t beat yourself up over it.

By: rachel

rachel — Wed, 21 May 2008 01:19:16 +0000

Melanie-I feel that way all of the time no matter what anybody says to me. I think we all have those feelings. Think of all the mothers in the world who are not even home with their kids during the day. I try and do one really fun activity a day and then I do feel like a god mom. Even it may just be going to the play ground for a little to get out of the house. I an sure it is tough and you are helping your family by making money this way. I am sure it is tough but look in Haileys eyes and you can see the amazing job you do. She is full of life and that is because of her MOM!!

By: Ellie

Ellie — Wed, 21 May 2008 00:22:25 +0000

Melanie! I haven’t posted on your blog in such a long time, but I really felt that I needed to respond to your blog today. I have seen you in action, although it has been way too long, and I know you’re a great mom. I see the way Hailey looks at you and the way she loves you! How you make sure that everything that she has is the best that you can give her! You two even have your own little things, that she expects everybody to understand, but not just everybody will share their belly button with you!

You have nothing to worry about, of course, we all worry anyway, that is just human nature. I worry about being a good student, a good wife, and a good friend (and a lot more). Everybody has these feelings, but I know you, and am lucky enough to be part of your family, and you could not help but be a wonderful mother! It is in your blood! I love you!

By: Kellan

Kellan — Tue, 20 May 2008 22:58:11 +0000

I’m here to tell you – YOU ARE WONDERFUL MOTHER!! I know you well enough to say that!! I think some of the guilt you feel is normal for first time mothers and mothers of young children. I have 4 kids and long past all the guilt – it does get better as time goes by. We do the best we can! WE do what we have to do! You are a wonderfful mother!

Take care- Kellan

By: dANA

dANA — Tue, 20 May 2008 20:56:04 +0000

you’re not a bad mommy!! i know you may feel bad right now – but you’re doing a great job!